We humans are pathetic. In fact, this is what the pug above is saying to you now. Humans are pathetic, says the little doggy.

We always seek to see ourselves in the best light. If others do something remarkable, we tell ourselves that we do things like that all the time. If someone tells you that you’ve done something wrong, you’ll try to show them (and yourself) how good of a person you are.

One way we seek this self-image is by lying to ourselves. Consider the following event.

A seven-year-old is told to clean her room. She hates cleaning her room. And, no matter how many times her mother tells her to clean it, she doesn’t want to. Her thougths rage, justifying things and considering all the ways in which she is better than others see her. “I shouldn’t have to clean my room. It’s my little brother who played in it all day. Mommy must like him more than me. Mommy doesn’t love me.”

And on and on, the lies flow. I’m better. I don’t deserve this. They don’t understand me. They just don’t like me. 

I think a lot of us tell ourselves these lies. My boss must hate me. That police officer just had something to prove. She doesn’t know what she was talking about. They were really to blame.

Why?! What’s the use of all this lying?

Well, like I said… They make us feel better about ourselves. They put us in a different light. And our pride is fed.

Stop lying to yourself. Instead, let the truth prevail. Maybe I’m wrong. I know they care about me, so they must be right. I need to treat them better. It’s my fault.

Don’t make yourself feel depressed. Just understand that you’re not ‘the best thing since sliced bread’. You’re not better than everyone else. Often, you are the one in the wrong.

And just so you know, this blog post is majorly writing to myself. I need this ten times more than anyone else, because I have a long history of self-aimed dishonesty.

What lies do you tell yourself?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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4 thoughts on “Stop Lying to Yourself

  1. I was very impressed with this post. I have to admit that I have had this struggle for a long time, so long that I can remember “lies” I told myself as a little girl. Very thought provoking. I appreciate your transparency and your honesty! Love you! Grandma G

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  2. Although I hate being caught in even partial untruths, I must confess, I have been using unkind generalizations lately in dealing with communications companies, customer service representatives, applications programmers, and the like; I have been trying to get reliable phone service in my new old home since September of last year. I have called many, many people idiots. Sometimes their actions and advice are truly stupid and incorrect, but that does not justify my calling someone an idiot. That term is ugly (and God don’t like ugly) as well as unkind…and it is probably not totally accurate in any of the cases where I have used it, consequently, I have lied about them. Furthermore, asserting that I know more or better is probably not totally true; because of my education and experience, I do know a lot about these technical issues, but I am not infallible nor am I omniscient or completely up-to-date. Before slandering my ‘neighbor,’ be he or she a courageous customer support person or a gui programmer, I should “reflect on my life,” (a wonderful quote from “Moonstruck,” and over-all good advice.) Thank you, Levi, for niggling my soul. I needed that.

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