[The following was most of the basis for what was later published in The Guardian US Opinion article, “Aaron Bushnell was my friend. May he never be forgotten”]
On Monday, February 26th, at 3:43pm, I got a text from a friend. “Have you seen the news out of DC today about the Air Force member? Let me know if you need to talk tonight or later this week.” I replied, explaining that I had seen the headline, and that it saddened me. She texted, “Since he was based in San Antonio I wondered if he was someone you crossed paths with or had friends in common with.” I said, “Hmm. I’ll have to find his name.”
The next moment, there was a text. “The name I’ve seen is Aaron Bushnell.”
I couldn’t believe what I was reading. I walked out the front door, and looked up at the sky. I called my friend. I said, “That’s my friend. I went to basic with him. I saw him last month.” And I wept. I found my last text conversation with him; he had sent me a YouTube video he thought was funny and we had chatted back and forth about it. And that was early February, and I never heard from him again.
It’s been over 24 hours, and of course I am still in shock. I will probably come back to this post and edit it again and again to be sure it communicates what I feel should be communicated. But here is what I know in this moment.
- Aaron did not die in vain. He has already inspired so many to stand up for truth and justice. It breaks my heart that his life ended this way. I could never do what he did, and I don’t believe anyone should do what he did. I repeat, I do not believe anyone should do this, and I do not want anyone to do this themselves for any reason. But we’ll never get Aaron back. All we can do is hear the message he died to shine a spotlight on.
- Aaron is by no means the only United States military member who has felt complicit in the military’s violence, powerless to change anything, and stuck waiting until the end of a four or six-year contract. There are thousands of military members similarly distraught, similarly having thoughts of taking extreme actions to escape something that feels inescapable. I got out of the Air Force as a conscientious objector in 2023, after going through the exhaustive process for over a year. I applied to be separated because I came to realize I did not support what the military was doing, I didn’t support its goals, and I didn’t want to earn my livelihood from something I believed was wrong. If you are going through something similar, please reach out for help. I know you can call 988 in the United States to talk to someone if you are having thoughts of suicide, and I would encourage you to contact me or reach out to the Center on Conscience and War if you are a military member who would like more information on being separated as a conscientious objector.
It’s hard for me to think about anything else right now. I appreciate all those who have messaged me with their support. I appreciate your prayer, your holding me in the light, your thoughts. Please pray for Aaron’s family, as well. I will likely come back to this with changes, but I felt I needed to get this out. Thank you for reading. Rest in peace, Aaron.
Update: 2/28/24 – On July 1st, 2022, Aaron sent me a few quotes from Octavia Butler’s Parable of the Sower. He told me I should read it, as the main character was a child of a Baptist preacher, and he knew I am as well. Below are the excerpts he sent.